Like picking petals in a park, there are times when a relationship feels like it sits on a scale...And counting the bundles piece by piece feels so exhausting and unnerving as we get closer to a final result. Because we can count the "He Loves Me" petals, and we can count the "He Loves Me Not", but in the end that's not how Love works. Its based on whole different set of scales.
You see sometimes there are more times that one says "I'm Sorry", than the times you say "I Love You", and it may seem a bit weary to the person or people that the words are meant to be given to. But its not about weighing one set against the other, or about which pieces bear more significance to the next. Its about the connection that you've just encountered, and knowing that someone still remembers to bring an "I'm Sorry" petal or an "I Love You" at all.
Yes, there will be times that there are more "I'm Sorry" petals than "I Love You" petals on one blossom, and sometimes it may strike you as frightening that it grows at all. So the key is to simply stop counting petals and remember to grow your relationship like a garden in bloom. Because one day you'll find yourself without anymore flowers, and only the petals from the garden you've picked.
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Monday, January 9, 2012
Earning Life
In life we must learn, that nothing comes from nothing, and that the only way we can ever benefit from anything that this world has to offer, is when we invest in something first. Whether it be a good deed, a financial investment, or even personal growth, we cannot simply expect something to manifest itself out of this ridiculous notion of "positive thinking", "karma", and "mental actualization". It is through action that a reaction is brought into being, not by sheer will. So it then baffles me, to the point of irritation, that some people simply expect the universe to grant them good tidings, when they have not earned it.
Then there's this idea that if you're a good person, good things will simply happen to you. This cannot be the case in a universe that relies on an input and output system. If you're a good person, who does good things, with love in your heart and of good and sound judgement, then all that makes you is simply a good person. You do not get rewarded for being good in this world, it is a basic expectation of your own humanity, not a gesture of greatness or the work of a man struggling to be great. Goodness is a character, and goodwill is mindset, just as dieting is a phase and healthy eating a lifestyle. If you want to reap the rewards of goodness, it will be done accordingly from those who have noticed your goodwill, or from those who a positively affected by it. But do not expect this to happen as a matter of principal, it is a reward that comes only to those who aren't looking.
Understand this, as simply as breath gives life, that good things don't happen to good people, because bad things happen to them too. And that sometimes out of ignorance, with the notion of being good, we can make poor judgements and bad decisions. Because sometimes the worst decisions are made with the best intentions. If you want something out of life, you have to work, work harder and happier, towards your own dreams, and manifest your own happiness. Because even your place in life, has to be earned.
Then there's this idea that if you're a good person, good things will simply happen to you. This cannot be the case in a universe that relies on an input and output system. If you're a good person, who does good things, with love in your heart and of good and sound judgement, then all that makes you is simply a good person. You do not get rewarded for being good in this world, it is a basic expectation of your own humanity, not a gesture of greatness or the work of a man struggling to be great. Goodness is a character, and goodwill is mindset, just as dieting is a phase and healthy eating a lifestyle. If you want to reap the rewards of goodness, it will be done accordingly from those who have noticed your goodwill, or from those who a positively affected by it. But do not expect this to happen as a matter of principal, it is a reward that comes only to those who aren't looking.
Understand this, as simply as breath gives life, that good things don't happen to good people, because bad things happen to them too. And that sometimes out of ignorance, with the notion of being good, we can make poor judgements and bad decisions. Because sometimes the worst decisions are made with the best intentions. If you want something out of life, you have to work, work harder and happier, towards your own dreams, and manifest your own happiness. Because even your place in life, has to be earned.
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Return In Kind
There are many arts of progress and social behaviours, that not only define us as people, but as a society and as an individual. And since the universe is run by systems of cause and effect and the overall progression and evolution of small actions that ultimately create extraordinary reactions and changes to the world we live in. That even the slightest change in the wind's direction can cause a complete shift in the weather and the landscape we live on, or how small seismic incidences can change whole tides in seas, wreaking havoc and destruction!
Now likewise there is a saying in human nature that teaches us the concepts of "Tit for Tat", or biblical concepts of "Sowing & Reaping", and even scientific concepts of "Push and Repel". And this crazy idea that if someone wrongs you, all that is naturally expected is for you to return the gesture in kind. But what does that say about human nature? That if we are pushed, we simply push back? And judging how we've evolved naturally in our environment, that since the world became harsh, we simply grew stronger and fought off the changes, adapted and survived. And somehow we've applied the same laws in society, that when the world grows cold, we grow colder, and when things don't go our way, we attack anything and anyone around us, in the hopes that somehow the universe will magically turn things in our favour.
But I have learned a crucial piece of information, that has, I think, helped me become a better person, a happier person with a sound mind. Call it the hypothesis of Life and Living if you will, but I figured, that since the universe works on the concepts of Cause and Effect, what would happen if I reacted in a different way to a negative incident, with positivity? Would this not negate or somehow change the set rules of circumstance, and does this not make the situation seem better for me and everyone else? And so far I've come to understand the method to my madness. That if someone wrongs you or if things simply don't go your way, don't return the gesture in kind...But return it in Kindness.
Now likewise there is a saying in human nature that teaches us the concepts of "Tit for Tat", or biblical concepts of "Sowing & Reaping", and even scientific concepts of "Push and Repel". And this crazy idea that if someone wrongs you, all that is naturally expected is for you to return the gesture in kind. But what does that say about human nature? That if we are pushed, we simply push back? And judging how we've evolved naturally in our environment, that since the world became harsh, we simply grew stronger and fought off the changes, adapted and survived. And somehow we've applied the same laws in society, that when the world grows cold, we grow colder, and when things don't go our way, we attack anything and anyone around us, in the hopes that somehow the universe will magically turn things in our favour.
But I have learned a crucial piece of information, that has, I think, helped me become a better person, a happier person with a sound mind. Call it the hypothesis of Life and Living if you will, but I figured, that since the universe works on the concepts of Cause and Effect, what would happen if I reacted in a different way to a negative incident, with positivity? Would this not negate or somehow change the set rules of circumstance, and does this not make the situation seem better for me and everyone else? And so far I've come to understand the method to my madness. That if someone wrongs you or if things simply don't go your way, don't return the gesture in kind...But return it in Kindness.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Swimming Upstream
There are things in Life that can sometimes be predicted easily, right down to the most intimate detail, such as measurements, or calendar days or the changing tides in seas. Or much larger things like earthquakes, or eclipses out in space. And it all usually comes down to the scrutiny and study of tracking moving and activity of a particular subject. But how do we then assume the basic instinct of predicting the behaviours of something eratic like the weather...or even more so...a person.
The truth is, we are all creatures of habit, and live according to routine. It's the reason why society has devised and adapted to things like laws and infrastructure, that ensure that there is balance throughout our everyday living. And as human beings, we've adaptapted quite well to the process of evolution, and have also become unpredictable in our ability to change and conform. So are we not then flexible creatures who live outside the boxes of habit and routine? After all, we change in order to keep up with change. But the truth is, it is within human nature to resist the elements, and to challenge our environment that we're surrounded by, how else would we survive.
So then the question is this, in Life, is it better to be flexible, and to change as changes come, and as we learn new things in order to survive? Or do we simply resist change, to ensure the survival of our own individuality and our own ideas, visions and opinions? Because in the end, one way or another, change and adaptability all depends on making life easier for ourselves, in order to survive. Or are we simply kidding ourselves, and like salmon...swimming up against the stream of Life and Evolution.
The truth is, we are all creatures of habit, and live according to routine. It's the reason why society has devised and adapted to things like laws and infrastructure, that ensure that there is balance throughout our everyday living. And as human beings, we've adaptapted quite well to the process of evolution, and have also become unpredictable in our ability to change and conform. So are we not then flexible creatures who live outside the boxes of habit and routine? After all, we change in order to keep up with change. But the truth is, it is within human nature to resist the elements, and to challenge our environment that we're surrounded by, how else would we survive.
So then the question is this, in Life, is it better to be flexible, and to change as changes come, and as we learn new things in order to survive? Or do we simply resist change, to ensure the survival of our own individuality and our own ideas, visions and opinions? Because in the end, one way or another, change and adaptability all depends on making life easier for ourselves, in order to survive. Or are we simply kidding ourselves, and like salmon...swimming up against the stream of Life and Evolution.
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Making Happiness
Isn't it funny how the most expensive ingredients are usually the most delicate ones, and the ones that are hard to come by are the ones with the shortest longevity. Its generally the case that to make the best recipes, we always require the best ingredients, and that the best ingredients come at the highest price, and even after all that searching, saving and spending, the expiration date still doesn't seem far enough away.
And so it is with life, that the best ingredients to Happiness are the hardest ones to find, such as Love and Laughter. And then there are the ingredients that come at a higher price, such as Success and Patience. And its not as if the processes of mixing, kneading and baking are easy, because most often, finding the balance of all these ingredients can be tough sometimes. Even if you've accomplished all this, life still has a funny way of showing us that even the best recipes for Happiness does not make it last any longer.
So yes...Most often, good things are not really meant to last, otherwise they lose their value. And life knows just how to bring us crashing down, just when you've reached the summit of bliss, not to be spiteful, but to teach us humility. But just because happiness has an expiration date, doesn't mean I'll stop buying. Because even through good and even through sad times...This is my life...And nobody and nothing will stop me from smiling.
And so it is with life, that the best ingredients to Happiness are the hardest ones to find, such as Love and Laughter. And then there are the ingredients that come at a higher price, such as Success and Patience. And its not as if the processes of mixing, kneading and baking are easy, because most often, finding the balance of all these ingredients can be tough sometimes. Even if you've accomplished all this, life still has a funny way of showing us that even the best recipes for Happiness does not make it last any longer.
So yes...Most often, good things are not really meant to last, otherwise they lose their value. And life knows just how to bring us crashing down, just when you've reached the summit of bliss, not to be spiteful, but to teach us humility. But just because happiness has an expiration date, doesn't mean I'll stop buying. Because even through good and even through sad times...This is my life...And nobody and nothing will stop me from smiling.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Baggage
I have found that sometimes in losing, we gain a lot more in life, than in holding onto baggage that simply keeps your life plane soaring above its limits. And sometimes we may find that there is baggage in our life, that we simply never thought to be baggage at all. Like most things in life that are often not what they appear to be, 'friendships' can resemble the kinds of cargo that one would rather have filled with great treasures, when in fact they're simply a lot more baggage than anyone should be willing and able to bare.
In airports, there are luggage counters, where one has to be checked in with all your luggage before you can get onto a plane that will take you to your desired destination. And at these counters a luggage check is undergone by a clerk who uses a series of mechanical and technical devices, all done to ensure that whatever you're taking along with you, does not compromise the security and safety of the flight, and does not result in defying the laws that keep the society moving as smoothly and effectively as possible in the location your journey will be ending at. You're also only allowed to take along a certain weight of baggage onto the flight, so often people only take along the absolute essentials, to make sure that they're not wasting any measure on things that they don't need to carry along with to their destinations.
So then one has to wonder, if so much stock is taken, and so many measures implemented, all for the sake of ensuring that you have a safe and enjoyable journey from your place of origin to your desired destination, then why do we find it so difficult to do the same in life? Because sometimes one has to do a luggage check, and ensure that what you're carrying are only the absolute essentials, and to simply dump the rest and enjoy your flight. Because if its not there to add value to your journey, then its not luggage your carrying, then its baggage instead.
In airports, there are luggage counters, where one has to be checked in with all your luggage before you can get onto a plane that will take you to your desired destination. And at these counters a luggage check is undergone by a clerk who uses a series of mechanical and technical devices, all done to ensure that whatever you're taking along with you, does not compromise the security and safety of the flight, and does not result in defying the laws that keep the society moving as smoothly and effectively as possible in the location your journey will be ending at. You're also only allowed to take along a certain weight of baggage onto the flight, so often people only take along the absolute essentials, to make sure that they're not wasting any measure on things that they don't need to carry along with to their destinations.
So then one has to wonder, if so much stock is taken, and so many measures implemented, all for the sake of ensuring that you have a safe and enjoyable journey from your place of origin to your desired destination, then why do we find it so difficult to do the same in life? Because sometimes one has to do a luggage check, and ensure that what you're carrying are only the absolute essentials, and to simply dump the rest and enjoy your flight. Because if its not there to add value to your journey, then its not luggage your carrying, then its baggage instead.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Brands of Love
Sometimes Love can be like a drug, and just like any addict, one has to find out which is your preferred 'high', and what takes you to the mental, physical and emotional state that you want to be. In essence, its about matching a particular user, to a particular drug, and from there it gets tricky...Its time to find your brand. Because not all are the same, although it may be a specific drug. The method in which it was made, from its point of origin, until the point of purchase or collection, and you can only expect to get out of it what has already been placed in there. But sometimes, there are ways to concentrate, and even enhance your particular drug.
Firstly, there are 3 categories within which the selection process of Love and the usage and practicality of it fall under. One can either attain all of them, one of them, or be blessed enough to have all three. The first understanding is this, that to practise Unconditional Love, requires a test of Character. The second is, that to practise Love Against All Odds, requires a test of Courage. The third is, that to practise Everlasting Love, requires a test of Commitment. But like most drugs, there is a strict prerequisite, a mandate that must be adhered to in order to practise the fine art of Love altogether. The rules are clear and mandatory to all, because in order to practise LOVE...we simply require Compassion.
For in our Character, we find that we can make good decisions, for better lives, and great loves. In our Courage, we can overcome fear, the unknown and accomplish miraculous things. And with enduring Commitment we negate the perils of infidelity and unfaithfulness. But it is through Compassion that we learn the true art of Love in our forgiveness. You see, just because someone does not love you the way you want to be loved, certainly does not mean that they're not loving you with all that they have...The art of loving is perfected through life and living, and sometimes they're just not the brand of love you're looking for.
Firstly, there are 3 categories within which the selection process of Love and the usage and practicality of it fall under. One can either attain all of them, one of them, or be blessed enough to have all three. The first understanding is this, that to practise Unconditional Love, requires a test of Character. The second is, that to practise Love Against All Odds, requires a test of Courage. The third is, that to practise Everlasting Love, requires a test of Commitment. But like most drugs, there is a strict prerequisite, a mandate that must be adhered to in order to practise the fine art of Love altogether. The rules are clear and mandatory to all, because in order to practise LOVE...we simply require Compassion.
For in our Character, we find that we can make good decisions, for better lives, and great loves. In our Courage, we can overcome fear, the unknown and accomplish miraculous things. And with enduring Commitment we negate the perils of infidelity and unfaithfulness. But it is through Compassion that we learn the true art of Love in our forgiveness. You see, just because someone does not love you the way you want to be loved, certainly does not mean that they're not loving you with all that they have...The art of loving is perfected through life and living, and sometimes they're just not the brand of love you're looking for.
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